Time to give...

This was supposed to be a joke, but after I read, it felt as if it was something with true meaning and purpose of life:

A man spoke with the Lord about heaven and hell. The Lord said to the man, "Come, I will show you hell." They entered a room where a group of people sat around a huge pot of stew. Everyone was famished, desperate and starving. Each held a spoon that reached the pot, but each spoon had a handle so much longer than their own arm that it could not be used to get the stew into their own mouths. The suffering was terrible.

"Come, now I will show you heaven," the Lord said after a while. They entered another room, identical to the first - the pot of stew, the group of people, the same long-handled spoons. But there everyone was happy and well-nourished.

"I don't understand," said the man. "Why are they happy here when they were miserable in the other room and everything was the same?"

The Lord smiled, "Ah, it is simple," he said. "Here they have learned to feed each other." 

We create our own hell and our own heaven. Only difference that makes our lives heaven on earth or hell is when we choose to be either generous or selfish.

We just keep on struggling all our lives. Trying to reach out for everything that we need and it gets more and more difficult as we only think about ourselves, our lives our children or our family at the most. 

Because we stay only on receiving end of life. We never understand that if we learn to give away that load we have around us, we would achieve that serenity we are looking for in those things. Because serenity and true happiness is achieved only by turning around expectation into acceptance. We actually take pride in helping others with what is already an excess baggage.

Giving away what is more than we need is good. But that is our duty not an actual virtue. The real virtue begins, when we give away everything we want for ourselves generously or at least share those generously what ever we have and what we like the most. All that we already have is in fact our debt to society and a debt that needs to be returned. It is the trust we received from people and the society. The best of all we can share and distribute is love, care, our capabilities and our ability, smiles and the comfort we enjoy.

If we want the best of all, we must learn to have a heart, ready give away and share the best with others only then the heavenly cycle of give and receive starts.

Our Lord promised, that He would give back 10 times of what we giveaway to other. 

But do we actually understand what is actually required by him to give? Not that extra stuff,  because He says " Give the best of things you have, would you like to receive something unwanted? or extra from me? or you want the best?

Masks

To live in this world is taken like wearing a gorgeous, classy wedding dress. You keep smiling at the guests and try to look as best as you can for the loved ones and your friends around you as well as posing for the photographers taking pictures capturing those memories forever.

I think the most comfortable dress you wear is never good enough to wear in front of anyone. You only wear it in your bedroom may be. But then you get dressed and start playing one of the characters allocated to you by life. Sometimes you are a genuine professional sometimes you are  a dear father playing the role for kids so that they could follow your footsteps. The way you talk the way you move the way you deal with different people and situations makes them learn.

Sometime we play these characters so genuinely and continuously that we forget the real human being inside us. It becomes so over whelming that we think we deleted the human being that would have been an innocent non hypo-critic child within us, it doesn't exist anymore. But it is a mistake.

That child only gets scared of that mask we wear for the character we play, exhibiting what a fine gentleman a strong up right man I am and hides deep down in a dark corner of our soul and stays there very very quiet and hushed. So calm that sometimes we stop feeling his presence within us. But there comes a day when that child is awaken by an incident and we feel the presence.

During this time the child within us keeps on making noises. Mumbling, squealing and sometimes laughing and we hear that in our dreams. Dreams that are not only in our sleep but also while we are wide awake. We keep telling ourselves what the heck, what am I thinking of? But when we hear those cries over and over we secretly step down into that basement of our soul to see that child within us and we sooth and play together secretly.

I wonder why do we keep pointing our fingers to those who seem to look like a human a real innocent pure soul that enjoys sunlight, rain and music like to dance and laughs at the limit of their lungs. We do the same, when we step down into that basement of our hearts secretly and regularly play together with that child but we keep on objecting to those innocent acts performed openly by those rare souls that need to be saved instead of being criticized and forbidden.

I think these pure humans are the most endangered species that need saved and protected more than those animals we are trying to save. These pure happy souls are rarely found in this hypocritical world. Sometimes we get annoyed, uncomfortable by their innocent interruptions. But only if we take of that mask from our face for while and join them when the innocently call us to play, we find that really refreshing.We enjoy every second of our time with them. But still, we just return to our shells after having that good time thinking about the time we wasted with them and get back playing our roles again for more money more power more acquisitions.

Away from actual life away from the real purpose of living still feeling very proud and successful when we know we are not.

Me my best friend

I have been able to overcome the frustrating feeling, feeling of letting go, letting go things that really mattered once.  At first I used to get frustrated when I was not able to catch my school bus in time or when I was not able to reach in time for a movie premier. It felt so bad to lose money as well in a lottery ticket.

It was always a shock; I locked myself in my room for hours and sometimes days.  It felt so bad; sometimes I used to get upset when a close buddy of mine won’t show up when I needed him around. I was so possessive, that I would get frustrated when I needed to go back home to finish my homework and he would stay back playing with other friends.

I was not ready to let go. It was always impossible for me. But nature has its own way of teaching you the lessons you refuse to take. Gradually, I started learning that letting go opens up new avenues and prospects that you never would have experienced without losing things that you keep in hand so tightly that there is no space for anything new or there is no way for something exciting, to get into your hands as you keep your fists firmly bunged.

So without me, ever noticing the reason, it started happening. I had to let go my good friends in school when I finished elementary school and joined high school far away from home.  Then the bigger things were lost, when we moved from that city where I was born and I grew up.

But the biggest loss was losing relationships and losing the most important ones. And losing the closest relations is lot more painful and extremely difficult when only the relationship dies, not the person. I was lost, torn apart; felt like something died inside me and sensed the most awful thing “self- pity” for months.  It seemed like eternity, felt like it would never end.

But you know what? It didn't. It was over too, I started feeling better and I was OK and you know, I am now a master of letting it all go. I was not afraid to lose.  Now it’s not a big deal losing relationships, because I have learnt, that when someone departs from your life for good, there is always an empty space, a vacuity and we all know that it’s a law of nature that vacuity or vacuums are never left vacant, always filled  swiftly.

I was not petrified to lose anything now. I slacken my fists; felt so good, so optimistic. I become intrepid soul, a liberated soul blessed with the foretaste of The Divine Sufficiency.

Now I am never alone and a friend of myself. I discovered that it was wonderful spending time with me, talking to myself criticizing, joking and teasing myself. I get lonely without me and I miss myself when I don't find time to spend with me. I don’t even get bored. It feels, time is always  too short to spend with myself.

It was not that I am not happy when I am not alone or with people around me, It is just that I am not scared, bored or upset being alone. Instead I love spending time with me. Have you ever been able to that to yourself too? Try it..:)

You have gun, we have camera

One of the most inspiring image that I have ever seen in my life. This is a lesson for those easy quitters who surrender against inequality, cruelty, cheating and dishonesty. Those who always tell you to leave it to God and never stand up against evil. I would say “Tolerance becomes a crime when applied to evil"

You are an equal partner of every dishonest cruel corrupt person when you tolerate evil. There is no more neutrality in the world. You either have to be part of the solution, or you're going to be part of the problem.".

Just see how easy it is to stand up against evil when you see something wrong in your surroundings and you just pull out that fancy cell phone from your pocket and take a picture or make a video clip of that and post it to social media you are using on the internet just for fun and at least e-mail, or share it via mobile app with all your contacts if you feel difficulty to e-mail it to the concerned authorities. Just for once in your life think of earning something for afterlife.

I understand that we are under enormous media pressure within our society.  Especially the electronic media news channels and the other so called entertainment channels supporting these news channels with the same kind of thoughts behind almost all those programs called dramas, movies and talk shows. The real use of camera has been disguised under the commercialism and the so called journalists prefer to make a live video of people dying and suffering instead of providing help at the spot because, exposing misery, corruption, dishonesty creates waves of excitement in public and they get huge ratings and traffic over the channel or website, exploiting religious beliefs and disfiguring them in the name of  liberty, broadmindedness. Portraying clergy and religious scholars as dishonest evil people makes you spend more on fulsomeness and security. Our society has become a victim of all this media created illusion and deceptions. As a result we have a sacred, frightened mentally inept people in our society being controlled by the media that makes them spend on what they like them to spend on. Have you ever thought of buying something that you never seen on TV or a magazine or newspaper? Just ask yourself and your contacts about it. How does this happen? Do you know? 

Why Stay like this? and let them show you what they want you to see?

Lovely mind

The very moment he saw her picture, he felt mesmerized with her lovely face and she fascinated towards him from the magic in his words. He e-mailed her to get to know the woman behind that devastating exquisiteness and after conversing with her he discovered that they have things in common, even after barely knowing her she makes him feel amazing and even with the combination of intelligence and grace she does not present an attitude that she is snooty. 

By the time their personal information was exchanged he found a way to message and call her anytime he wants, then the next day he had the retrograde amnesia of everything that had transpired between the two of them, he feels sick in the head and he doesn't want this treasure to know something that really isn’t him, so he sends her a message revealing his whole situation, because to this woman he doesn’t want to maintain a constant front.

Days go by after revealing who he really was, he sees her log online, but the fear that is inside him makes him not want to contact her, so he stays distant and far. Finally, when he can’t hold back his feelings for this woman that had just recently captivated his heart, he bravely e-mailed her with a passive statement asking her how she is doing, he needs to communicate with her so badly, but the paranoia and fear keeps him apart. A day later he receives a message back from her, she doesn’t appear to be distant which he finds rather shocking, she knows everything about him and she is not running away scared, and he sends a message back and once again his heart begins to stir.

He asks, “Did you read the messages that I sent you?” Yes” she replies, all that fear is gone and he makes a safe mental landing, then in a flash of thoughts he realizes that not only is she intelligent, beautiful, and artistic, but she is also understanding.

She doesn’t judge him for who he is; he is just a human being with a big heart in her eyes, and after that moment of realization he realizes that she maybe distant in another state, and that her personality shines brighter than any star. One may feel like they are damaged goods, which leads people to not put out their cards on the table, but he just learned that there are women out there that are understanding and are not lost in the judgmental woods. 

For those of you that have lost hope in finding someone that will accept who you are, the trick is to feel very thankful and to stop looking, Cause when you are in that state of gratitude, you become a person who only wants to stay on the giviving end, not like most of the people out there on the reciving end, looking and witing for love . When you become grateful it takes over your life, and you can't find enough opportunities in a day to give. You give joy, you give love, you give money, you give appreciation, you give compliments, and you give kindness. You give the best of yourself in your job, in your relationships, and to strangers.

You will know when you have really found true gratitude, because you will become a giver. One who is truly grateful cannot be anything else. Then soon you find her in your proximity, and not so distant that your passion is squandered, because they are not far. Don’t lose hope and don’t let your passion refrain, because that person is out there with a beautiful mind and soul as yours.

Liberate yourself

Have you ever heard of the magnetic force that surrounds all the universe? The force that keeps us together? Scientists call it the gravity and tell us that this gravity keeps everything intact in this universe and also keep creatures on earth the way they are. The reason we walk and our feet stay on the ground and enable us to move freely is this gravitational pull that also brings us down to earth when we try to jump.  This magnetism this law of attraction works on every human on earth as well.

As beautifully put together by Zachary Philip Freeman, writer philosopher and Filmmaker, "It is an unseen force, it pulls one person to another, it makes two pieces whole, it is what makes everything attract, it is what leads everything to its destination, it guides things to their course. Whether it is the articulate thoughts of one human to another, whether it is the actions of someone in motion, whether it is kindness you see in someone’s heart; it is what makes one person become someone else’s brother. It is a law of creation, it is what brings things together, and it pulls distant objects to a whole and creates a unified station. It can be your style, your way of thinking; whatever the draw it collects all things living or not to a pile.

It makes someone contact you out of the blue, it is the desire for one person to get to know another, and it is the societal glue. Extroverts are natural magnets because they say what is on their mind, how can your thoughts be heard if you don't express yourself, how will you attract someone that views you as a golden find. Introverts have a tougher time with magnetizing people to them, they are mute in their thinking, and they will never find their match, because people will have to dig past their emotional wall to see if they are a undiscovered gem. Never silence yourself, never hold back who you are, be open to the world, don't fear what people think of you, otherwise you will be that dusty book that remains unread just left on the shelf.

Be loud like the beat of a drum, don't fear rejection no matter who you are, because this world is big enough that someone will like your tune and join along with you as you hum. The people who reject who you are as a person are not the people you want to be with anyway, you want someone with your similarities; you want a common bond that will make then be by your side and they will forever stay. Open yourself up, be the peacock that blossoms it’s plumage, let yourself shine for who you really are, and you will be filled to the top in your lonely cup. Don't let the fear of someone walking away from who you are, look in the sky at night, there are so many beams of light; you will be bound to find your star.

Let nature work in your favor, beam the core of who you are to the masses no matter how damaged you may feel, because there is someone out there who will like the taste of your flavor. There are currently seven billion people on this planet, there is someone out there for you no matter how grim things may feel, it is a numbers game, and you need to attract them to you, all while being ready for rejection, and tough as granite. Use the laws of nature to your advantage and harness the magnetism, you will lose those that don't deserve you, and those that do will make you shine bright like light through a prism".

Allow yourself to get liberated. Let your imagination and thinking get out of the box. As Rumi said, "Your task is not to seek happiness and love, but merely to seek and find all those barriers within yourself that you have built against love and happiness".

Benefits of misery

Yes there are  benefits of misery chaos and tragedies. If we look at the other side, where lots of poor professionals and businessmen and women need to have reason to sell their product and services.

These regular power cuts, failures (Load shedding) are really good.  Come on think of the poor families of Power Generator and UPS producing men and women how would they survive if you keep on enjoying a steady supply of power at home? Don't be so mean just give the poor people a chance to earn a decent living.

When one of your dear one falls ill and you get really worried and rush treatment and cure and sometimes you get upset with the high prices of drugs and medicine and treatment please don’t. Because if no one falls sick how would those poor medicines producing companies survive? They need these diseases badly even if they need to invent them. So please don’t mind and don't be bothered just sit back and relax think of those happy families benefiting from your loved one's illness.

See all those conflicts and differences that create fights among groups and wars between two countries. You see people die in the streets and mothers, sisters and wives of some innocent victims of so called extremism or terrorism please don’t worry don’t cry, don’t get upset. Just think of all those happy families of weapon producers who have no other way to sell their products. How do you think they would market and advertise their products when advertising and marketing of weapons is totally banned on press and media?

The need to find a way to earn a decent living for their families they need to persuade people to buy guns and ammo. They need to make people feel like having armed guards and keep bigger armed forces for their countries even when there is nothing valuable in the house or the country.

Have you ever wondered why Switzerland has no army? Even when world’s largest deposits of gold and capital are in that country? I still don't know why there are lots of other countries where there is nothing to be guarded or at least a lot less valuable than Switzerland and they still maintain a huge army.

So please be reasonable and never get upset with these small miseries of life think of those poor people who need these calamities, catastrophe and tragedies to earn a decent living.

Loving someone...

It is sometimes bewildered that loving someone is meant to be living with that someone. In our possessiveness and lack of forethought we tend to be melodramatic and we don't share our loved ones easily.


But there is a distinction between loving someone and living with the one you love. It’s like when we say I love Shahrukh Khan or Keanu Reaves or Nicole Kidman, it’s what we love about them on screen and what media tells us about them and we love the way they perform on screen. It does not exactly mean we would want to marry any of them. Even if we want that everyone knows it’s not likely to happen. Even we know that very well and still we keep on loving them. Wanting a lot may be, to spend more and more time watching their movies, shows and interviews and also eager to meet them in person and craving to get closer and closer. But it’s only a wish and desire, an admiration, respect, may be tremendous affection and fondness.

Desire, which sometimes revolves around a personality that we admire, may be someone, in our own social circle, or even relations. We love being with that person, talking to him or her. Always yearning to spend more and more time with that person and even have a desire to be loved by that person or spending the rest of our lives with that person. But we know deep down in our hearts that this is unfeasible.

And even there is one more important thing that we feel:

We know that if we try crossing our limits to get that person into our lives it would devastate everything, including the splendor of the relationship that exists between both of us already. We understand that a rose appears exquisite attractive and sweet smelling when it’s not plucked. The time we snatch it from its source, it loses all what we love about it.

Just like fish look so lovely in an aquarium in a hotel or someone's house. All those colorful kinds of fish make us feel so good but we know in our heart that we can never take them out of that aquarium, just to get hold of them, because they will die.

Also in this course, most of our loved one's feel bad as well. They get in secure and sometimes loose reliance in the relationship. In their purity and possessiveness they don't recognize that this only our castle in the sky a wish a desire. Just the way when we see a beautiful juvenile child that’s not even related to us we feel the urge to hold that child kiss hug and express our love just to make him or her feel good. But sometimes the mother cannot stand this she gets apprehensive or uneasy of the stranger holding her child.

Loving needs a bigger heart, relaxed boundaries and an open bright thinking. Cause:

Decision is always yours

I am a believer,...I only know that the only thing that defines how big you are is were you start worrying. Patty matters wont worry a big man. Matters need to grow big enough for him to start worrying. Keep a big heart, a broader mind and keep your scale of getting worried high.

I believe,  it is in our own hands to decide whether we are:

One of those who wait for their turn or those who make others wait?

Weather we are one of those who follow or we are one of those who are being followed?

Are we one of those who like to be loved? Or we are one of those who prefer giving love?

We usually look for happiness, how about trying to give some? 

It feels almost the same, we seek serenity, pleasure and leisure,

but did we ever think about trying to provide some serenity, pleasure and leisure?

Why are we always on the receiving end, why not we just once try to be at the giving end? I believe that the upper hand is always better than the hand under it, the lower one at the receiving end.

It is  always far more satisfying being on the giving end than just staying on the receiving end.

 Try it for a change.. :)

Planning or Scheming ?

It is said that, “If you Fail to Plan, you plan to Fail". We are always planning, intentionally or unintentionally we have the tendency to plan. But where does the thin border line between planning and scheming starts? Where we are not supposed to be planning?

Planning too much spoils the naturalness and the essence of happiness. The true feeling of fun when we plan to celebrate our happiness in future, when we are free enough or comfortable enough to celebrate. 

This is like insurance scheme or policy. I never agreed with the idea all my life. You can’t plan a future that you don't know about. The future, that is never in your hand. What if your wife or children die before you die? What is the use of that huge plan and a big amount of insurance policy? It’s like trying to interfere with divine intentions. It’s trying to be there when for them even after death. 

Sounds really touchy and romantic but we are just human beings. It is just like we are part of a huge play, or film, playing our parts as someone's son, daughter  father, mother husband, brother  sister a friend or even a lover in that movie. But when the shooting ends, no one leaves an insurance policy for his relations in those movies. It is stupid.

All I mean to say here is that play your part according to the requirement, don't over indulge, don't let your emotions your feelings overwhelm you and make you cross the line between a human and God. Leave God's things to God.

I love spontaneity naturalness and I prefer that on stupid plans. We can only plan where we are sure. When we have enough knowledge and understanding that allows us to adjust our goals and re adjust and we are not interfering with divine intentions.

Every plan has its humanly limitations. Like when we talk about savings, we need to save only what is more than our needs and the needs of those who are unable to live by themselves, the poor. We are allowed to save yes, but with some rules and regulations, necessary to follow for the real good of mankind. We can’t keep on saving, cutting our present needs and waiting for retirement to spend those savings when we can’t even enjoy them fully with that age, if we are still living by that time.