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Thursday 2 May 2013

Loving someone...

It is sometimes bewildered that loving someone is meant to be living with that someone. In our possessiveness and lack of forethought we tend to be melodramatic and we don't share our loved ones easily.


But there is a distinction between loving someone and living with the one you love. It’s like when we say I love Shahrukh Khan or Keanu Reaves or Nicole Kidman, it’s what we love about them on screen and what media tells us about them and we love the way they perform on screen. It does not exactly mean we would want to marry any of them. Even if we want that everyone knows it’s not likely to happen. Even we know that very well and still we keep on loving them. Wanting a lot may be, to spend more and more time watching their movies, shows and interviews and also eager to meet them in person and craving to get closer and closer. But it’s only a wish and desire, an admiration, respect, may be tremendous affection and fondness.

Desire, which sometimes revolves around a personality that we admire, may be someone, in our own social circle, or even relations. We love being with that person, talking to him or her. Always yearning to spend more and more time with that person and even have a desire to be loved by that person or spending the rest of our lives with that person. But we know deep down in our hearts that this is unfeasible.

And even there is one more important thing that we feel:

We know that if we try crossing our limits to get that person into our lives it would devastate everything, including the splendor of the relationship that exists between both of us already. We understand that a rose appears exquisite attractive and sweet smelling when it’s not plucked. The time we snatch it from its source, it loses all what we love about it.

Just like fish look so lovely in an aquarium in a hotel or someone's house. All those colorful kinds of fish make us feel so good but we know in our heart that we can never take them out of that aquarium, just to get hold of them, because they will die.

Also in this course, most of our loved one's feel bad as well. They get in secure and sometimes loose reliance in the relationship. In their purity and possessiveness they don't recognize that this only our castle in the sky a wish a desire. Just the way when we see a beautiful juvenile child that’s not even related to us we feel the urge to hold that child kiss hug and express our love just to make him or her feel good. But sometimes the mother cannot stand this she gets apprehensive or uneasy of the stranger holding her child.

Loving needs a bigger heart, relaxed boundaries and an open bright thinking. Cause:






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