Your Girl, Your Mom

Pointing out faults and having objections is the easiest thing what every human can do. We love doing that, whenever we find good time to do that and most of us often do find time. We do that specially in  absence of the person we are pointing out and we suggest a lot that we are unable to execute ourselves.

The only person we like the most to point out faults is the most closest one and the one we don't fear any resistance or we don't care about resistance. We remain careful not to point out faults of those superior than us and even if we do, we refer to rule one of pointing out faults i.e. " Makes sure he or she is not present and aware".

But the Girl in love is not the one you think she is. Once so fond of the boy she in love with that they don't even want to listen anything against this boy. But this is only before before marriage.

After the marriage, every fault in the same boy starts to emerge out of no where. The way he talks, the way he walks, selection of his clothes and the way wears his clothes, the way he even eats or sleeps has a fault hidden inside and it reveals suddenly after settling down or getting close enough where there is almost zero present chance of return.

The girl suddenly becomes his mom, always advising upon the way he works and the timings, the way he meets other people and talks to them, specially other girls and ladies in his social or business circle even family circle. She cares like a mom, keeps a close eye on his moves. The dress he wears before leaving the house. The perfume he wears, the time he takes to reach his office and then back home and specially she is very careful about the company he keeps. Just like a responsible mommy.

She stays restless, she stays hungry she always worries why he wont take my calls, why he is getting late than the usual time, why he wears that and why he changed perfume or the password of his machine or phone or e-mail or why he always has to go out at a certain time.

This is just a display of care, sincerity loyalty and dedication and of course love. She has to see if the boy is mislead by his mom, his sister and specially by female colleague or an old classmate or a relative even her own sisters, brothers or a mutual friend.

So boys be very very thankful obedient and satisfied. You have one more mother to take care of you. Just sit back and relax she will take care of your upbringing along with your money. Your beautiful dream girl has taken up the responsibilities for  you. You are now always free to build a future, create new ideas and strive for new frontiers of success. With a free mind from all these responsibilities that she has taken over for you. No one would mislead you and you would not need any consultancy and advice or encouragement or shelter better than that.

Its true that there is always a woman behind a successful man. Because no woman is after a looser.

Don't try to fix me , I am not broken

My elder niece once used this phrase on her share status bar on one of her chat messengers. I loved it that’s why I still have it in mind. 

I wonder why we always try to fix things our way, wherever we have control or where we have the least resistance expected. We keep on hammering our ways and thoughts onto others, specially on the children. We forget that we do not own them they are not our property. Being responsible does not mean that the guards and the watchmen have the right to fix the building and the property they are protecting, according to their own easy way.

Every person is born with a unique personality. Just like every nation has its own geographical, cultural and moral values and circumstances. Imposition of certain values laws and ethics might not be applicable everywhere. Especially when there is huge cultural and geographical difference.  I wonder if the areas of the world under the colonial rule, direct or indirect, had such worst living conditions, as being projected and shown, what made these direct or indirect rulers/invaders/intruders stay there for centuries? fixing? for so long? How many more centuries are they going to try that?

Power to change things according to your own choice is great, but so is the courage to accept things you can not change. The best thing that can happen to some one is the ability to understand the difference. Difference that makes him or her understand that this is what I can change, and this is what I cannot or should not change.

I heard that where ever a fire breaks out, the impact of pollution and heat spreads all over world in few hours. It means that no matter how small the fire is the whole world is going to share the consequences. We think that those little bad things we do secretly will not create an impact?

Before we start a destruction, a fire or imposition of our ways onto others we must think about the impact it is gong to create. Because sooner or later it is going to spread around and we are will face the consequences in some way for sure. This is nature's way to give back, Just like when we smoke we pollute environment and the nature, in return we get a disease. At least I believe that.

But here you might say, parents always have good intentions for their children. Maybe, but the bear that was a very good friend of the man also had good intentions to get rid of the fly sitting on his friend's nose and he threw a huge rock on the man's nose to kill that fly actually that was not letting him take a nap peacefully. (Bear and the Gardner)

I heard that a  kangaroo in its love for its child, hugs the child so tight that sometimes it breaks his back bone.

We can not make a tree grow faster than the natural process and have same good results. If we use unnatural ways we always get unnatural results. There is a thin line between intruding/interrupting and helping your kid grow into a great human being.

Humans are very short of patience. We want our kids to grow up into a mature, reasonable intelligent and successful person quickly, but you know patience is the only difference between a grown up and a child. And who is the child here?

In the end I would like to ask everyone trying to fix something, weather a child or a country. Please don't try to fix us, we are not broken....

"If you wana make the world a better place....Take a look at yourself and make the change."